a mistake can always be corrected

it's been a while since there boomed the hottest issue that i involved myself into. and yes, for a while, there has been silence between the parties involved.

i have been wrong. yes, i know. i always know. others may have been wrong too and deny. but it's up to them actually. they are the very ones who know what really is the truth and what is not.

the damage has already been done -- everyone's aware of it. the broken pieces can never be mended back. relationships may have fallen apart. friendship may have been broken.

everyone may think it's over between the people who have been close to one another. others may think it's useless to continue being friends with the same people who hurt them.

but i dare say, things may have fallen into failure, but one mistake can always be corrected.

as for me, it's over. if others still carry the bitterness in their hearts, well. they do it themselves.

i don't want to go back to the same place where i have been. i don't want to be stranded just because of one lame mistake.

it's over. long over. no more bitterness. no more pain. no more anger. NO MORE.

ANGER.

anger hurts us. anger kills. anger shatters relationships.

sometimes, it's the anger that covers our eyes from the reality. it's our anger that conceals the goodness that we are supposed to see on other people. anger blinds us to the right that we should learn.

yes, indeed, the intense emotion we are feeling inside us burns the goodness in our hearts.

and it pains. it pains not only us but the people whom our anger should be thrown in to. and we get blinded by our pain. we forget the feelings of other people. we take them for granted. and we brood in every single mistake that we see in them. and then... things get too complicated.

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.” goes a saying from Siddhartha Gautama Buddha.

we can never really escape from the angst in our hearts, not unless we set those free and carry no burden on our shoulders.

do you know why angels fly?

it's not because they have wings.. but because they carry no burden in their hearts.

may we always live like angels -- no guilt, no pain, no anger.

in every learning experience that we encounter, let us forget the painful feelings locked in our hearts. and when things are over, should we mean it. through that way, each of us we'll be able to live, having no regrets... more so, having no anger.

~ a happy night for everybody! :)

fight for your stand

each of us has our own principles that we are always willing to fight for. i myself have on own stand and no one can ever make me change my mind with what i strongly believe.

but the question now is, is it really right to just fight for our principles without properly knowing the grounds of the whole situation? do we really fight for what is right? or do we just fight to resist and make ourselves the right one?

sometimes, we get too blinded by our own principles that we forget other people. well, actually, we sometimes take them for granted also BECAUSE WE ARE TOO PREOCCUPIED OF AND BY OUR OWN SELVES.

now, may i ask you. are your principles really worth fighting for? are you really standing for what is right? do you really know why you are fighting for such? or you just do it just to have "something" to fight for?

let us all be conscious of how we act and what we believe. sometimes, we are misguided by our own beliefs. and instead of doing what is really right, we are fighting for what WE THINK is right. and that's how things start to become complicated.

so, you see, life is full of complexity. and in everything we do, it always has an effect on other people.

so, stand up now. but before you go to your battle, THINK FIRST... and think again.

LEARNiNG FROM OUR MiSTAKE

nobody is perfect. everyone commits mistakes. even if your are the president of the United States, or the king of Great Britain, or the Prime Minister of China, you still are prone to committing mistakes, whether they are little or big.

mistakes are inevitable and part of human nature. imperfect as we are, we are always bound to commit mistakes. we are prone to hurt not only ourselves but also other people. there's a tendency that we become too preoccupied of ourselves. we tend to think only of ourselves to the extent that we are already hurting the people who matter most in our lives.

yes, mistakes hurt people. mistakes make us cry. mistakes make us feel anger.

as a result, friends clash and relationships fall apart. isn't it painful to know that all these can happen with just one lame mistake?

mistakes are not present for us to succumb unto them. mistakes are not recognized for us to degrade ourselves and deprive ourselves of the many opportunities of the world.

well, the little truth is that, mistakes should make us even stronger and wiser.

we can learn from our mistakes after admitting that we really have done something wrong. but if we are too proud that we never admit such and we start to blame other people, we start to separate ourselves from the world and the opportunities life offers.

but if we only courageously stand and say "hey! i am guilty of this mistake. i am responsible for this. no one should be blamed for this other than me", the learning process then starts. indeed, admitting one's mistakes help a person recognize his/her faultiness and imperfection and he/she moves towards understanding of life's possibilities.

isn't it lighter to feel that we willingly recognize and accept our mistake and learn from it? isn't it joyful to know that  relationships are saved for such humble act?

mistakes are our teachers. "A man's errors are his portals to discovery", goes a saying from James Joyce. mistakes open us to a newer and better us. mistakes lead us to a wiser being of ourselves.

we should not brood over our mistakes or from the mistakes of other people. a learning from such experience should emanate from us.

all these will not only help us become better individuals. these will also help us learn life's possibilities.

indeed, mistakes are inevitable; but this fact should never be the reason of our downfall, as well as the downfall of our relationship with other people.

life offers learnings, not depression. life is our teacher, not our punisher.

The Ten Concepts of Life

1. We are here to learn our lessons, and the world is our teacher.

2. The universe has no favourites.

3. Your life is a perfect reflection of your beliefs.

4. The moment you get too attached to things, people, money... you screw it up.

5. What you focus on in life expands.

6. Follow your heart!

7. God is never going to come down from a cloud and say, "You now have permission to be successful!"

8. When you fight life, life always wins.

9. How do you love people? Just accept them.

10. Our mission in life is not to change the world - our mission is to change ourselves.